HOW TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

MEN AND WOMEN ARE CONTRADICTORY BUT COMPLEMENTARY.  IS IT TRUE ?

Humans are divided into men and women. Both of them have some differences.  Although men and women are created for completed each other. In a relationship, men and women are required to be able to understand their partner. The question is how to understanding your partner ? The answer is you must to know about two important fact are mentions below. 

The first fact seen from emotional scale. John Gray in his Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus book explain that men are like rubber bands and women are like waves. As we know that the texture of rubber bands is flexible. If we pull the rubber bands and than released again, it will be back to the first condition, but if we pull it stronger the rubber bands will break. That statement describing if the men’s emotions will subside quickly but if their emotions go up, they will release all their emotions and probably all people who see it feel scare. While women are like waves, women’s emotions tend to be less stable (sometime up and sometime  down). This is often associated with up and down wave conditions. Women emotions usually change in a matter of minutes and they will share about the story why they getting emotions to their boy friend or family. After examined more deeply, if a women’s emotions are rising up, men can compensate and they will choosing to be quiet and try to calm her until their heart conditions feel better.

The second fact seen from mindset. Men think by logic, they decided a decisions based on logic and they will find the way to get out from the problem rather than tell the problems stories to another people. They are more calm in dealing problems. Men’s mindset is very contradictory with women’s mindset. Women always involves their feelings in all matters or even in decided some decisions. They will share about their problem to another people and they will talk more often. The differences between men’s mindset and women’s mindset are very visible. These differences can complement by each other. The women who panic in dealing problems can balanced with the men who calm in dealing problems. Then they can involve their feelings and logic for decided a decisions, so the decision will be more appropriate.

The explanation above can answer the question “are men and women are contradictory but complementary?”. The two facts above have an important role in establishing a relationship. If a couple can practice it in their real life, their relationship will be perfect. I belive that if we are able to reduce anger and be able to decide a wise decision in an amorous relationship, the relationship will last a long time.

REFERENCES

http://andromans.blogspot.com/2006/09/men-are-like-rubber-bands-women-are_29.html?m=1

https://blog.mindvalley.com/men-are-from-mars-women-are-from-venus/